Monday, July 26, 2010

I'm that mom.

Impromptu blog carnival inspired by Flo and Ronnie

I'm that mom you see smiling as her kids go *up* the slide at an uncrowded park.

I'm that mom whose son led her to the freezer this morning, got out the ice cream for me, and I put some in a bowl for him.

I'm that mom who goes shopping with one daughter in high heels, fancy dress-up clothes that she's 'improved', and a hat that would put any Derby hat to shame, one daughter in a pirate/superhero mash-up outfit, and a son with painted nails pushing a stroller with his baby doll in it.

I'm that mom who doesn't join in conversations about bedtimes, tv/computer restrictions, food restrictions, or joy that school is about to start back up. But I *am* that mom who you hear talking to her kids about everything so that you may hear my child asking for some cheese because she 'needs more protein' or asking if I can help her find a 'sanctuary' so that she can have some alone time to regroup.

I'm that mom whose kids use ... um ... grownup words. That they may have learned from me. And I may sometimes be proud of them for using them in context. Maybe.

I'm that mom who annoys you by saying 'yes' to almost everything and rearranging her schedule as much as possible to suit her children's wants - because I happen to think they're as important as mine.

I'm that mom talking to her kids instead of smacking them if they display 'inappropriate' behavior.

Speaking of that ...

I'm that mom who will never be *my* mom. Or dad. I'm that mom who will never hit my child. I'm that mom who struggles mightily some days with behaviors and mindsets I was taught about children, with patience, with exhaustion, with patience, with frustration, with patience ... Yeah, I'm that mom for sure.

I'm that mom who thinks that kids are not a subspecies that need to be trained and molded, but little humans who deserve to be respected and loved and appreciated for who they are, right now, not who they might be or will be. I'm that mom that thinks that being my child's friend is an honor, not a failure as a parent.

Hopefully, I'm that mom that will raise children who respect others, believe in themselves, and live happy lives.

That will be my greatest achievement, to be that mom.

And I'm that woman that tries to understand and support you as you are your own 'type' of mom - because we women need that.

16 comments:

Flo said...

Beautiful!

Frank said...

Hooray for you! Nice post.

Stephanie said...

Lovely, friend.
I'm honored to know you.

I've gotta check out that carnival!! :)
Soon.

Ronnie said...

Beautiful post!

Laureen said...

Ok, this? "I'm that mom whose kids use ... um ... grownup words. That they may have learned from me. And I may sometimes be proud of them for using them in context. Maybe."

I love this. This is us, too. Context! and terms of opprobrium. As in "well, honey, you could say "f******" there, but let's stretch and find some really, really great words for this... heh.

acysej said...

That was a very moving speech! I loved it!!!

Victoria said...

I love this. And I'd love to know you as well!

Saberlowe said...

You rock! I especially love the image of the four of you at the mall. I'm pretty sure I'd have chased you down and invited you all over to hang out and be my new best friends. Also, my son had ice cream for breakfast this morning too.

paxye said...

Love it! So well said... :)

Laura/CenterDownHome said...

"I'm that mom who doesn't join in conversations about bedtimes, tv/computer restrictions, food restrictions, or joy that school is about to start back up." It can be lonely, sometimes, in certain groups. But it's worth it to be That Mom -- the rewards are great. :) Loved your whole post!

debbiedas said...

This is so great. I love how you spell it all out for us - and yes, we use too much adult language around our house but when they nail it in context, it's impossible not to be so proud of them. :) -Debbie

Lisa Russell said...

Love it- hilarious. esp the naughty words, the dress-up in public and going up the slide, that's a skill, y'know.

debra said...

Loved your post, Sarah. You are also that mom who has the courage to look at yourself with honesty and clarity. I am so glad to be a part of your community.

Darcel said...

That was beautiful. I'm hoping to join in the carnival tomorrow.

julie said...

The first time my tiny little toddler uttered a swear, I was shocked in my head, then very proud that she could swear in appropriate context. It's DEF something that you learn homeschooling in my house.

Maria said...

Love it!